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well hello there - Marriage is not for me!!
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mole_goddess
well hello there
 Hi all!  I guess this is my introductory/rant post.  I think it is really cool that this community was created... I only know one other person in real life (my boyfriend) who shares my views on marriage.  We've been dating for little over 3 and a half years, and we have never felt the need to have a big, creepy ceremony to declare our love.

Also the thought of signing a piece of paper saying we will continue to love each other seems ridiculous to us.  How can you promise you will still love someone one, ten, or eighty years from now?  If we decide our relationship isn't working anymore we don't want to be stuck with a legal obligation to either stay together, bitter and unhappy, or pay buttloads of money to split up.

I am extremely individualistic: I don't believe in binding myself to another person.  I like to be free of obligation, or from being dependent upon someone else.  I think it shows a more "pure" feeling of love when you hang out with someone simply because you enjoy their company, not because you have to due to some sense of duty and long-term commitment.  It also helps to eliminate all those petty feelings of jealousy and insecurity that seem to plague couples.

Somewhat similar to a previous member, I am an atheist, anarchist, childfree, and non-monogomous (in the sense that my bf and I don't restrict sex to within our relationship)... so I have absolutely NO reason to feel I should get married.

Anyway, it's nice to be here among like-minded people!  Sorry about the long lecture :P it's just so relieving to be able to speak frankly about what I think without people freaking out all over the place.
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seroquels From: seroquels Date: December 19th, 2007 01:08 am (UTC) (Link)
I think it shows a more "pure" feeling of love when you hang out with someone simply because you enjoy their company, not because you have to due to some sense of duty and long-term commitment

I couldn't agree with you more!

OT is that an Avatar icon?

Edited at 2007-12-19 01:08 am (UTC)
From: mole_goddess Date: December 20th, 2007 02:41 pm (UTC) (Link)
It is indeed! :D
seroquels From: seroquels Date: December 20th, 2007 03:07 pm (UTC) (Link)

<3 Avatar

I really need to just fork over the cash and buy the damned series on dvd. All that I ever catch are the repeats. I haven't seen any new episodes AT ALL.
From: mole_goddess Date: December 23rd, 2007 04:12 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re: <3 Avatar

I know! I don't think they show the episodes on tv much anymore. When they do they only play the same few episodes from the first season over and over. I haven't seen ANY of the third season on tv :( I have to watch them online. But I'm waiting until the show is finished so that I can buy a complete set instead of all those individual dvds with only like four episodes on each.
minuet1965 From: minuet1965 Date: December 19th, 2007 01:10 am (UTC) (Link)
You are welcome,

I did not know there was THAT much interest.

I love LJ and just wanted a "support group thing"

thank you for sharing!!

From: mole_goddess Date: December 20th, 2007 02:44 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'll be interested to see how many people eventually join. I found it through a post on the childfree community. I remember I had searched for such a community before and didn't see anything for people against marriage, just a lot of yay!marriage communities. So I was sad. But now I'm happy :D
From: rachelsummers77 Date: December 19th, 2007 03:23 am (UTC) (Link)
I am extremely individualistic: I don't believe in binding myself to another person. I like to be free of obligation, or from being dependent upon someone else.

Right on! I've been on the receiving end of that "you are my reason for living" vibe, and it's scary.

I'm polyamorous and atheist as well; I've especially gotten grief for the former when explaining that I don't want to get married or similarly committed to anyone.

Them: "So you just cheat on whoever you're with?"
Me: "Noooo..I'm upfront with my lovers about it."
Them: "Well what if they did the same thing to you?"
Me: "They have every right to do so."
Them: "What about diseases?"
Me: "I always practice safe sex, and trust my lovers to do so when they're with others. Also, I don't tend to do one-night-stands, these are more like good friends with benefits."
Them: "But it's just sex to you!"
Me: "With someone I love."
Them: "..then why don't you marry them?"
Me: *headdesk*

...et cetera, ad nauseam.
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